Although we hate to admit it, we want everyone to like us, which is somehow linked to the unpopular fact that we want to please our peers. It does sound like a difficult task, especially since we want to preserve ‘us’ and don’t want to compromise authenticity, but an expert shares some helpful mind tricks to make this possible and at the same time find new friends.
Pay Attention to the Feet
During conversations, people get fixated on a person’s eyes, nose, or mouth. However, ‘Emotional Intelligence 2.0’ author Travis Bradberry advises focusing on the individual’s feet because it will say a lot about how they see you.
If the feet are pointing toward you, then it means the person is listening to you and is interested in what you are saying. However, if they point away from you, then their mind might be far away from your conversation.
Mention a Person’s Name Thrice
Whenever you are introduced to someone new, it is important that you mention their name thrice in the first five minutes of the conversation. It sounds easy but the hard part is that you have to make sure that you do it naturally or else you’ll sound like a broken record.
Have you observed that you somehow adopt the behavior around you? This is why it is crucial to exude excitement when you see a person.
This way, they will return that excitement. Plus, this is how people you just meet will remember you – a person filled with positivity and happiness, and as such, they will only think of the pleasant things when they recall their first few conversations with you.
Persuasion is not an easy game and only a few people are skilled in winning others into their way of thinking. If you need to do this, you can try nodding your head when speaking but ensure that it looks natural.
People tend to mimic the body language of those around them. Plus, nodding while talking gives off the impression that what you’re saying is desirable and true.
In Legoland, when an employee asks another the whereabouts of a certain thing, they would show the direction using an open palm instead of pointing a finger. The logic behind this is that an open hand or palm conveys trust, making others to like and agree with you.
However, if you point a finger, it is seen as rude and aggressive. As such, practice using your palm to make you more friendly-looking.